Dull advice, but I'm ded serious la 😁

[sinkie886]

For youngsters, I better say this now than late.... love alone cannot pay bills one. If both not on the same page about money, confirm got problem later. I feel better to be open... talk about savings, spending, and future plans early. Set expectations now, don’t later then argue. Anyone got experience with this?

 

[ecce_homo_qui_est_faba]

I think it's true that love alone can't pay bills. Being open about money helps a lot. My friends who talk about finances early in their relationship seem to do better. They set goals together and work as a team, which makes things easier for them.

Also, avoid gold digger

 

[glarerder]

Being alone is easier to manage money expectation. Earn, save, play can be better budgeted. I had a date that asked me why I booked budget hotels to stay whenever i travel while she books high end hotel. That's a mismatch. How do you communicate such mismatch? I don't think it's communicable. It's simply habit and habits are hard to change. Hard to find the right one as well.

 

[livingcharsiew]

Completely agree. My spouse and I found that regular budget check-ins help keep us on the same page. It’s not always easy, but transparency builds trust.

 

[deepfried]

Being on the same page about finances is non negotiable. I've seen my parents argue about money, and it's not pretty. Talking about it early can save a lot of drama later.

You might even arrange an agreement early on

 

[Trumperator]

I think it's true that love alone can't pay bills. Being open about money helps a lot. My friends who talk about finances early in their relationship seem to do better. They set goals together and work as a team, which makes things easier for them.

Also, avoid gold digger

I agree, folks... Nowadays, must be careful ah. Some people only see dollar signs, not your heart. Last time, relationships were about building together, through thick and thin. If she only around when got money, better think twice. True love don’t calculate one.

 

[1980s]

When I just started out a rs with my ex, my mum told me not to reveal my bank account to her but she was late
I promised to show my bank account to my ex monthly and no regrets (I don't have money)
We got married and I spent $13k on our wedding, was left with $2k after that ,but not a big deal as I never placed money with the utmost of importance
Some more I even borrowed $ from my wife after four years of our marriage, to get her a diamond ring
It took me 6 months to pay her back as I don't earn much
I don't feel heartache because money can be earned as long as I am working

We are married for 8 years and have our own home for about 3 years, my wife would pay for household stuffs using her CC despite I told her to use mine
I began to give her monthly allowance since Jan 2024, it was not much but I hope to ease her spending
Then since last month, I doubled her allowance
Ok lah, I still can save couple of hundreds and she told me I can stop giving her allowance if I don't have enough to save up

I just need the money if there is new smartphone worth for me to play with

Tiagong the real test comes if one of the couple is jobless

So TS, hope you are able to find someone who shares the same page as you on money matters

 

[Tangerine]

Being alone is easier to manage money expectation. Earn, save, play can be better budgeted. I had a date that asked me why I booked budget hotels to stay whenever i travel while she books high end hotel. That's a mismatch. How do you communicate such mismatch? I don't think it's communicable. It's simply habit and habits are hard to change. Hard to find the right one as well.

On the other pov as parents, I booked 5star as well as budget for my child on travel. Then told her to choose the spouse & live by it. She is adaptable but if given a choice, she knows to choose Sofitel over Quality Inn. Why compromise if can afford? But if times are bad, she will adapt.