What are some famous myths about relationships?

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TeoMingErn

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A friend of mine once told me this classic relationship myth: 'Love is all you need.' But let’s be real, it takes more than that.
Love doesn’t pay the bills. It doesn’t fix miscommunication or make two people truly compatible. One night, after another argument with no resolution, my friend finally asked, 'Why isn’t love enough?'

And that’s when they realized that love is important, but without effort, trust, and understanding, it won’t last."

What other relationship myths have you heard?
 
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Have you heard something like "Love should always feel effortless"?
Many people think that a good relationship should never involve work, but for me maintaining a healthy relationship takes communication, effort, and compromise. Even in the happiest relationships, there are challenges..
 
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Myth: Got money got honey.

When a woman loves you for your money, what happens after she gets your money?
 
My sister once said : "If you're truly in love, you’ll never need personal space."

Let's be real, everyone needs their own space to grow as an individual. Also, personal space can actually strengthen a relationship by helping both partners retain their sense of self.
 
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"Happily ever after" is the biggest myth fed to us, especially those of us who grew up in the Disney movie era.
We are now at middle age, some married, some with kids, and if we had swallowed Disney "truths" hook, line, sinker, we probably are experiencing tons of difficulties in dating and marriage.

It takes DAILY work to build a relationship. Just like a house or a garden, without someone cleaning, tending every day, a house will fall into disrepair, a garden will be overrun by weeds and all kinds of funny creatures. What kind of work is useful though? Need to have good relationship mentors and read a lot of good books to know.

Some principles that seem to have worked out well for me currently:

1) Always be thankful for the good things in our lives and relationships.
2) Forgive quickly and don't bear a single grudge.
3) Understand the other person's love languages, and be personally motivated to love them via their love languages.
 
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Relationships should be effortless.

Yes if your partner do all the lifting.
 
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There's the idea that romance should always come naturally. Nope, sometimes you gotta put in a little effort to keep the spark alive.

It can be as simple as doing something spontaneous together, like a surprise dinner. But you certainly need to be activevely working on it.
 
Here's a few of the big ones I've heard:

The whole "soulmate" thing - like there's only one perfect person for you. That's BS. There's lots of people you could be happy with.

Thinking you gotta have everything in common. Nah, differences keep things interesting.

Believing your partner should be able to read your mind. <- Ladies, remember this.
 
Men are expected to pay all.

Most women I know contribute to the relationship financially. I believe it's true in most cases.
 
I think a lot of these myths come from movies and TV. They make love look magical and effortless. Think of "love of the first sight" only works if you look like Sydney Sweeney or Henry Cavill
 
Love at first sight.

Got such thing meh?
 
TeoMingErn said:
A friend of mine once told me this classic relationship myth: 'Love is all you need.' But let’s be real, it takes more than that.
Love doesn’t pay the bills. It doesn’t fix miscommunication or make two people truly compatible. One night, after another argument with no resolution, my friend finally asked, 'Why isn’t love enough?'

And that’s when they realized that love is important, but without effort, trust, and understanding, it won’t last."

What other relationship myths have you heard?
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Probably the most common myth concerning relationships is that monogamy is ideal. This is despite the fact that there is ample evidence to the contrary. Rising divorce rates, cheating, and the popularity of porn, for instance. In their book SEX AT DAWN, Ryan and Jetha proposed the alternative theory that monogamy is hard for humans because it goes against our nature. Our cave ancestors were not monogamous. Monogamy was a relatively recent invention (around 10,000 years) compared to how long we have been around (100,000 years or more).
 
A lot of times, what is mistaken for love is actually lust
 
There will always be conflicts in relationships. If there are none, it’s either u are super lucky or u have been avoiding issues
 
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