Why I’m Not Rushing Into a Relationship

[AhemAhem]

I’m in my 30s now, and honestly, I’m still single. I get asked a lot, “Why are you not in a relationship yet?” or “Aren’t you worried about settling down?”
But the truth is, I’m not in a rush. I’ve seen people around me jump into relationships just because they felt they had to. Some of those relationships worked out, but many didn’t. I don’t want to choose the wrong person just because of pressure or fear of being alone.

For me, it’s not about finding someone. It’s about finding the right one. And until that happens, I’m happy focusing on myself, my goals, and the people I already love in my life.

But sometimes, I do wonder, Is it wrong to take this path? Am I overthinking it? What do you think? Would love to hear your thoughts.

 

[nozart]

I get where you're coming from. It's totally okay that you're not in a rush to be in a relationship just for the sake of it. I've seen people jump into things because of pressure or fear of being alone, and it often doesn't end well.

You're focusing on yourself and your goals, which is super important. So, no, I don't think you're overthinking it. You're just being thoughtful and patient.

 

[getting1995]

I depends though.

If you are a man, 30 is young. If you are a woman, especially in Asian culture, it's too old.

But I don't believe that, I think the ceiling for woman is more like 35 imo.

 

[duriandude]

I depends though.

If you are a man, 30 is young. If you are a woman, especially in Asian culture, it's too old.

But I don't believe that, I think the ceiling for woman is more like 35 imo.

There is a reason woman is expected to have a partner soon. If she is too old, she may not fertile anymore and couldn't bear a baby.

 

[Aunt Dino]

I’m in my 30s now, and honestly, I’m still single. I get asked a lot, “Why are you not in a relationship yet?” or “Aren’t you worried about settling down?”
But the truth is, I’m not in a rush. I’ve seen people around me jump into relationships just because they felt they had to. Some of those relationships worked out, but many didn’t. I don’t want to choose the wrong person just because of pressure or fear of being alone.

For me, it’s not about finding someone. It’s about finding the right one. And until that happens, I’m happy focusing on myself, my goals, and the people I already love in my life.

But sometimes, I do wonder, Is it wrong to take this path? Am I overthinking it? What do you think? Would love to hear your thoughts.

I thought you have a Japanese gf?

 

[dumbledore calmly]

Be careful, your biological clock is ticking.

 

[N4E.SI]

From personal experience, my best days in terms of dating success seems to be around 28-35yo
Many women who are looking to settle down will look for guys within this age range as they don't want someone too young or too old
Past 40, I find my dating pool to have shrunk tremendously
Either get old aunties or young xmm looking for sugar daddies
The decent girls looking to settle down seems to prefer guys in their late 20s to mid 30s
So even though there is no biological clock pressure for men when it comes to settling down, it will get harder as one becomes older