Things I, as a guy, wished a girl knew

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Philipkee

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Firstly, I cannot read minds

Secondly, getting emotional in arguments is a turn off

Lastly, sometimes when you are too agreeable, I suspect a trap.

What about the rest of you?
 
Men hates drama. So, if she said no, then don't expect men begging you to say yes :poop:
 
Men hates drama. So, if she said no, then don't expect men begging you to say yes :poop:
This one is so true

I think for guys, once the girl starts turning emotional, we try to exit the argument liao
 
That's I prefer taking turns to ask the other out. Always me asking to me means the girl isn't interested even if she is. She's just enjoying the feel of someone asking her out and having the authority to say yes or no.
 
That's I prefer taking turns to ask the other out. Always me asking to me means the girl isn't interested even if she is. She's just enjoying the feel of someone asking her out and having the authority to say yes or no.
I think it’s fine to take turns but no need to like u ask one time I ask one time

But if it’s always the guy then something is wrong
 
Sometimes
Firstly, I cannot read minds

Secondly, getting emotional in arguments is a turn off

Lastly, sometimes when you are too agreeable, I suspect a trap.

What about the rest of you?
When I spacing out, it doesn't mean that I thinking of other girls or something complicated.

We just wanna enjoy our "nothing" box. Which is literally... Nothing 🤷🏻‍♂️

Nothing box
 
Sometimes

When I spacing out, it doesn't mean that I thinking of other girls or something complicated.

We just wanna enjoy our "nothing" box. Which is literally... Nothing 🤷🏻‍♂️

Nothing box
There was this joke

Husband came home all moody. Didn’t talk to wife. Didn’t watch tv. Went to bed after a bit of dinner.

Wife’s thoughts - affair, divorce imminent, call lawyer asap

Man’s thought - Man U lost today
 
If she asked to check your phone, just leave her. Even if you are a straight-arrow guy that never cheats, she has a bad faith that will ruin the relationship.
 
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If she asked to check your phone, just leave her. Even if you are a straight-arrow guy that never cheats, she has a bad faith that will ruin the relationship.
What if she reciprocates? Let’s u check her handphone?
 
What if she reciprocates? Let’s u check her handphone?
I find girl reciprocating is a wet dream most of the time. How many times you treat doesn't automatically translates to how many times she would treat you back. If most girls know how to reciprocate, we wouldn't have guys complaining girls come to date only for the purpose of getting a free meal. Sometimes I think it's because many guys are too giving. That enables the girls to take advantage, even if some don't want to. I find many girls only reciprocate cos they find themselves have to do that so to become more attractive in a way. E.g. you would find more older women you date paying for the date than you would find younger women doing that. Both are working. Why different behaviour? It's not the maturity imo.
 
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Firstly, I cannot read minds

Secondly, getting emotional in arguments is a turn off

Lastly, sometimes when you are too agreeable, I suspect a trap.

What about the rest of you?
I want my spouse understand that silence isn’t always distance. Sometimes, it’s just exhaustion. That we notice the little things, even if we don’t always say it out loud.

Just because we don’t break down in front of you doesn’t mean we don’t feel the weight of things.

And most of all, that love isn’t just about grand gestures. Sometimes, it’s in the quiet moments, the way we stay, even when words fail.
 
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Firstly, I cannot read minds

Secondly, getting emotional in arguments is a turn off

Lastly, sometimes when you are too agreeable, I suspect a trap.

What about the rest of you?
What kind of trap?
 
What kind of trap?
Dear, can I spend time with my friends tonight

Sure, love of my life

Dear, can I go with my friends to watch soccer

Sure, love of my life

One hour later…. Ten messages from her sister saying she was crying saying u don’t love her anymore and now she is wailing and wailing please come over NOW
 
Firstly, I cannot read minds

Secondly, getting emotional in arguments is a turn off

Lastly, sometimes when you are too agreeable, I suspect a trap.

What about the rest of you?
from me, a middle aged man:
- Men might not always show it, but they do appreciate the small gestures. They just don't openly admit it in public.

- Men are capable in the kitchen, but don’t set the bar too high... it’s likely going to be simple (and maybe a bit burnt). LOL

- Mid-life crisis is real! The urge of buying a sports car feels so hurt. Yep, it's true. But it's more about feeling young and sprightly rather than trying to relive youth.
 
Simple....
if a guy is serious about you, you won’t have to guess. We’re not that complicated. If he’s vague, inconsistent, or “too busy,” he’s just not that into you.