Siao Liao, I'm Getting Married Leh, But I'm A Bit Scared Liao

[JustMeHere]

Hi everyone, wah, I need to jio you all for some advice leh. I'm getting married soon liao, you know? But hor, after reading all the stories here about marriage, I'm a bit scared liao, lah!

I mean, some of the stories ah, really siao, one! Like the sexless and loveless marriage one, wah, jialat! Then the one about people fighting over small things, also kena scared liao!

I always thought marriage was like, happily ever after one, like in the movies, you know? But now I see so many people kena problems, then I start to think too much. I know that real life is not the movies, lah, but still a bit worried.

I also think that maybe I'm overthinking lah. Like, not all marriages are bad one, right? Maybe I just see too many negative stories and become paranoid liao, lor? I kena tell myself, my marriage is going to be different lah, must be positive.

But I really hope that I can have a good marriage lah. I really want to have a partner who I can grow old with, you know? Someone who can agar agar me and support each other.

So, I'm here to ask you all, how ah? Any advice for a bit scared soon-to-be-married person? What should I do ah? How to make sure that my marriage won't kena like the others one? I need some comforting words leh. Maybe you can share some good stories also can? I need some positive vibes lah. Thank you all in advance!

 

[LovesToLaugh]

Like, I'm not married yet, but I'm also in the same boat lah, getting ready to tie the knot soon and feeling all the same feels you know?

I understand lah, reading all these stories also makes me a bit kan cheong you know? Like, when you see all the jialat stories, then you start to wonder if you will also kena the same thing lor? The one about the sexless marriage ah, that one really makes me think twice leh!

I also feel like it's very easy to get lost in the negative lah. Especially when you see so many people having problems, then you also think that your marriage also confirm will kena problem one. But I think we kena try to stay positive lah.

It's good to hear that you also want the happy ever after thing lah. It makes me feel like I am not the only one who dreams of that you know? I also hope for a marriage where we can agar agar each other and grow old together happily.

So, aiyo, I really wish you good luck lah! And I also wish myself good luck too lah, ha! Maybe we can all share good stories and tips so that we don’t become a ‘horror’ story you know? Lets all just try our best and hope for the best, okay? Jia you, everyone!"

 

[CuriousCat88]

Like, I'm not married yet, but I'm also in the same boat lah, getting ready to tie the knot soon and feeling all the same feels you know?

I understand lah, reading all these stories also makes me a bit kan cheong you know? Like, when you see all the jialat stories, then you start to wonder if you will also kena the same thing lor? The one about the sexless marriage ah, that one really makes me think twice leh!

I also feel like it's very easy to get lost in the negative lah. Especially when you see so many people having problems, then you also think that your marriage also confirm will kena problem one. But I think we kena try to stay positive lah.

It's good to hear that you also want the happy ever after thing lah. It makes me feel like I am not the only one who dreams of that you know? I also hope for a marriage where we can agar agar each other and grow old together happily.

So, aiyo, I really wish you good luck lah! And I also wish myself good luck too lah, ha! Maybe we can all share good stories and tips so that we don’t become a ‘horror’ story you know? Lets all just try our best and hope for the best, okay? Jia you, everyone!"

I can totally understand where you're coming from lah, with all the kan cheong feelings about marriage after reading those stories. It's like, the more you read, the more you start to think too much one, you know?

I agree that some of the stories are a bit jialat lah, and it can be scary to think about things like sexless or loveless marriages. It’s like, you always thought that marriage is supposed to be all 'happily ever after', like in the movies, but real life is so different one. So, it is normal to feel scared lah!

I think you are right lah, that maybe you're overthinking a bit. It is easy to become paranoid when you only see the negative side of things. Not all marriages are bad one. We kena tell ourselves that our marriages will be better. We kena stay positive lah!

I think it's nice that you have such high hopes for your marriage, and that you want to grow old together with your partner. I also think that is very important lah, to have a partner who can support you, and agar agar you through all the ups and downs.

Actually, I've been in a long-term long distance relationship for a few years already, and it’s not always easy lah. We have to work hard to maintain our relationship, and we kena constantly communicate with each other to agar agar. Maybe this experience has made me think about relationships and the work they require.

So, yes, I think you should keep focusing on the positive, and jia you to both of us lah, for our future marriages! Jiayou everyone!"

 

[HeartBrokenOne]

Hi everyone, wah, I need to jio you all for some advice leh. I'm getting married soon liao, you know? But hor, after reading all the stories here about marriage, I'm a bit scared liao, lah!

I mean, some of the stories ah, really siao, one! Like the sexless and loveless marriage one, wah, jialat! Then the one about people fighting over small things, also kena scared liao!

I always thought marriage was like, happily ever after one, like in the movies, you know? But now I see so many people kena problems, then I start to think too much. I know that real life is not the movies, lah, but still a bit worried.

I also think that maybe I'm overthinking lah. Like, not all marriages are bad one, right? Maybe I just see too many negative stories and become paranoid liao, lor? I kena tell myself, my marriage is going to be different lah, must be positive.

But I really hope that I can have a good marriage lah. I really want to have a partner who I can grow old with, you know? Someone who can agar agar me and support each other.

So, I'm here to ask you all, how ah? Any advice for a bit scared soon-to-be-married person? What should I do ah? How to make sure that my marriage won't kena like the others one? I need some comforting words leh. Maybe you can share some good stories also can? I need some positive vibes lah. Thank you all in advance!

Aiyoh, reading your post is just making me feel so annoyed lah! It’s really hard to believe that you’re getting married and feeling worried about it. It’s like, why should you get to have a happy marriage when I’m so miserable? It just reminds me of everything that I have lost, and it makes me so angry, leh!

It’s so irritating to read about you getting married and being so worried, like, so what? You’re worried about the sexless marriages and the fighting? Why are you getting married then? It’s like you’re just going into it blindly! You should be grateful that you have someone lah!

Then you go on and on about how you want to have a ‘happily ever after’ and want someone to grow old with, aiyoh, it’s like you’re living in a dream world! You say that real life is not like the movies, then why are you expecting to have a ‘happily ever after’? Siao, lah!

Honestly, it makes me so mad to see people hoping for a good marriage. I wish that you would go through a terrible break-up, so you can understand how painful it is. I wish you won't get married at all. Then you will know what it feels like to be truly miserable.

I know this sounds terrible, but I am just so annoyed, lah. I just hope you don't get too happy in your marriage, and that you will have to suffer one day, like me.

I hope you will not get the ‘happily ever after’ you are hoping for.

 

[1980s]

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