Divorce is hard, but sometimes it's worth it

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Nobody wants to experience a divorce, including me. But sometimes marriage didn't work out as we expected. I've met my ex husband in university, thinks that we are a perfect fit, and decided to settle down.
Later I know, somebody can be very different after married. He seems can't letting go his single life, never help the house chores, and made me feel lonely while looking for his own fun outside. It's tiring, and I come to my decision. We separated, thankfully with no child. My life (mentally and physically) getting better.

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apple381 said:
Nobody wants to experience a divorce, including me. But sometimes marriage didn't work out as we expected. I've met my ex husband in university, thinks that we are a perfect fit, and decided to settle down.
Later I know, somebody can be very different after married. He seems can't letting go his single life, never help the house chores, and made me feel lonely while looking for his own fun outside. It's tiring, and I come to my decision. We separated, thankfully with no child. My life (mentally and physically) getting better.

Thanks for reading my story ☺️
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Divorce? Been there, done that too. Honestly, it wasn’t easy, but I learned a lot. It’s not the end of the world, just a huge life shift. You gotta take time to heal and figure out what you want, not what society says you should want. It’s tough, but you come out stronger.
 
satkimania said:
Divorce? Been there, done that too. Honestly, it wasn’t easy, but I learned a lot. It’s not the end of the world, just a huge life shift. You gotta take time to heal and figure out what you want, not what society says you should want. It’s tough, but you come out stronger.
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I wanna say while you come out stronger, there is some damage done to you that never goes away

That is while I am a divorcee, I try not to get remarried to a divorcee. There is a damage done. I can feel it in myself as well
 
Philipkee said:
I wanna say while you come out stronger, there is some damage done to you that never goes away

That is while I am a divorcee, I try not to get remarried to a divorcee. There is a damage done. I can feel it in myself as well
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I'm truly sorry to hear about your marriage struggles. After decades with my partner, I've realized that open communication and patience are key. Sometimes, seeking counseling together can provide new perspectives. Wish you luck in your journey ahead.
 
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I'm truly sorry to hear about your marriage struggles. After decades with my partner, I've realized that open communication and patience are key. Sometimes, seeking counseling together can provide new perspectives. Wish you luck in your journey ahead.
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Open communication and patience won’t work in my case. Ex wife was vietbu. Ran away days after wedding and most conversations then were about needing more money.
 
Philipkee said:
Open communication and patience won’t work in my case. Ex wife was vietbu. Ran away days after wedding and most conversations then were about needing more money.
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Aiyah, bro....

If she run off so fast and only talk about money, maybe her heart not even in the marriage to begin with. Not all about patience or talking things out, sometimes must face the hard truth lor. Not your fault, just wrong person. Move on, learn from this, and be wiser next time.
 
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Living together is hard. It takes both parties to put in a lot of effort to maintain the love once both shared.
Once love fades, everything you have to do for each other becomes a chore. Instead of making the wife or husband as maid,
it is necessary to have a helper for chores. But how many can afford a helper where most sinkies are struggling to pay pigeon hole huge loan.
Sad Sinkie lot in life.
 
Tangerine said:
Living together is hard. It takes both parties to put in a lot of effort to maintain the love once both shared.
Once love fades, everything you have to do for each other becomes a chore. Instead of making the wife or husband as maid,
it is necessary to have a helper for chores. But how many can afford a helper where most sinkies are struggling to pay pigeon hole huge loan.
Sad Sinkie lot in life.
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Love doesn’t just fade overnight.

It wears down, bit by bit, buried under routine, unspoken resentment, and the slow forgetting of why two people chose each other in the first place. Yes, chores pile up, life gets heavy, and not everyone can afford an easy way out. But in my humble opinion, love isn’t about affordability; it’s about effort.



A helper won’t fix what’s broken if both have already stopped seeing each other beyond the daily grind 🥀
 
CrucifyMyLove said:
Love doesn’t just fade overnight.

It wears down, bit by bit, buried under routine, unspoken resentment, and the slow forgetting of why two people chose each other in the first place. Yes, chores pile up, life gets heavy, and not everyone can afford an easy way out. But in my humble opinion, love isn’t about affordability; it’s about effort.



A helper won’t fix what’s broken if both have already stopped seeing each other beyond the daily grind 🥀
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2 couples I know has helpers throughout till now to take care of chores & their love is still strong. Love is about both affordability as well as effort. Condo well kept with 2dogs, big enough with 2 dogs, can invite & host family/friends.
A helper will definitely relief the energy(effort) & channel the energy to focus for each other, heal, fix & grow the relationship. Of course not all relationships can be fixed. But definitely will help many to have time & effort instead of having less communication, less time, little energy for each other. Stop all these, unspoken resentment starts.
 
apple381 said:
Nobody wants to experience a divorce, including me. But sometimes marriage didn't work out as we expected. I've met my ex husband in university, thinks that we are a perfect fit, and decided to settle down.
Later I know, somebody can be very different after married. He seems can't letting go his single life, never help the house chores, and made me feel lonely while looking for his own fun outside. It's tiring, and I come to my decision. We separated, thankfully with no child. My life (mentally and physically) getting better.

Thanks for reading my story ☺️
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During dating stage, did you all talk about whether both of you would be willing to help out in household chores? How often does he hang out with his friends as compared to going on dates with you?
 
No kids divorce. Good. For those with kids, how did you make the decision to divorce or not?
 
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