I’ve been wondering lately: How do you even know when you’re doing this parenting thing right? Some days, I feel like I’m absolutely crushing it—getti

[Mikey1986]

I’ve been wondering lately. How do you even know when you’re doing this parenting thing right?
Some days, I feel like I’m absolutely crushing it, getting meals on the table, school assignments done, and somehow, even managing to keep the house from completely collapsing. Other days, I’m like, 'Did I just ruin my kid’s future by letting them have cereal for dinner again?'

And speaking of, how do you deal with the guilt? Is there a magical parent handbook I missed? Or are we all just trying to make it through the day without losing our minds?

Also, here’s a big one how do you balance your kid’s needs with your own? Is there ever a real balance, or are we all just pretending we have it together while secretly Googling 'How to survive parenting without caffeine'?

I’d love to hear what other parents are thinking about all this. What’s your secret to staying sane and keeping the kids happy?

 

[JustMeHere]

I’ve been wondering lately. How do you even know when you’re doing this parenting thing right?
Some days, I feel like I’m absolutely crushing it, getting meals on the table, school assignments done, and somehow, even managing to keep the house from completely collapsing. Other days, I’m like, 'Did I just ruin my kid’s future by letting them have cereal for dinner again?'

And speaking of, how do you deal with the guilt? Is there a magical parent handbook I missed? Or are we all just trying to make it through the day without losing our minds?

Also, here’s a big one how do you balance your kid’s needs with your own? Is there ever a real balance, or are we all just pretending we have it together while secretly Googling 'How to survive parenting without caffeine'?

I’d love to hear what other parents are thinking about all this. What’s your secret to staying sane and keeping the kids happy?

This parenting thing ah, sounds very sian and tough leh! To be honest lah, I always wished I had a parent, you know? So when I see these kinds of threads, I also a bit envious, lah, but also feel a bit guilty, you know?

I mean, like wah, it must be so difficult to be a parent lah, with all the things you all have to think about and do. I know that the parents, kena work very hard one. All the things mentioned in the thread, like making sure they eat well, go to school, and that the house isn't messy, wah, so many things leh!

I feel a bit guilty lah, you know, because I didn't really trouble my parents one, everything I do myself. I know that some children can be very difficult to handle, but I really didn't give much trouble to them, lah. But sometimes, I still feel like I should have done more lor, you know? It’s like, now that I am older, I know that parents do so much.

I think it's okay to feel a bit lost and confused lah. Like, it’s impossible to always get it right, you know? I think as long as you try your best and you do everything with love for your children, then you are already doing a good job, lah. There is no perfect parent, one?

I think it's important to balance your kid's needs and your own needs, lah. But I think it's also okay to take some time for yourself, you know? You can't be a good parent if you are always kan cheong and stressed. You also kena take care of yourself, lah, then you can have more energy for your kids.

But you all ah, the parents, wah, really the best lah! Even if sometimes you feel like you are not doing a good job, I think as long as you try your best, that is already more than enough. I think it's very tough one, to be a parent.

So to all the parents out there, jia you lah, you all are doing a great job one! Don't worry so much lah, everything will be okay one!

 

[tiredgal]

Balancing your child's needs with your own is a tough but rewarding challenge. As a parent, it’s natural to want to give your child everything they need, but you can’t pour from an empty cup, so self-care and attention to your own needs are just as important. When your child is young, self-care can feel nearly impossible, but try incorporating them into your routine. For example, if you’re doing yoga, let them join you with their own mini mat, or if you enjoy reading, let them have their own book time while you read yours. It allows you to both nurture yourselves while being together.

 

[duriandude]

If your kid is happy then you are probably doing something right.

 

[whyareyougae]

Well actually, there is no correct answer here because every kid is different but given that you are asking the question whether or not you are doing it right then. I guess that's a good sign. It means that you are a caring parent and you are trying your best.

My suggestion? Talk to them as often as you can.

 

[yperic]

I’ve been wondering lately. How do you even know when you’re doing this parenting thing right?
Some days, I feel like I’m absolutely crushing it, getting meals on the table, school assignments done, and somehow, even managing to keep the house from completely collapsing. Other days, I’m like, 'Did I just ruin my kid’s future by letting them have cereal for dinner again?'

And speaking of, how do you deal with the guilt? Is there a magical parent handbook I missed? Or are we all just trying to make it through the day without losing our minds?

Also, here’s a big one how do you balance your kid’s needs with your own? Is there ever a real balance, or are we all just pretending we have it together while secretly Googling 'How to survive parenting without caffeine'?

I’d love to hear what other parents are thinking about all this. What’s your secret to staying sane and keeping the kids happy

I understand that parenting feels like riding a huge roller coaster with unending stop. But one advice that I believe until now, "No matter how hard we try, we won't be a perfect parents. Just try our best, let the life do the rest".

Avoid being overthinking, because sometimes our own negative thoughts can consume us in a negative way. Our kids need our real existence, so don't dwell on your own paranoia.