In a dilemma to get married

[CuriousCat88]

Actually I now I am in a difficult position whether to get married with my gf of 3 years. On my hand I value my freedom a lot and the other hand I like her company and she very good to me.
She also wants a kid but I feel like going DINK.
Sometime I like to go for a few days overseas trip with my travel buddy of many years but she will said that she feels lonely alone at home, she is now staying with me. I bought my own resales.

This one confirm very kan cheong and jialat ah? Whether to get married or not, it's like you're caught between a rock and a hard place sia! It's like you kena the 'freedom' versus 'good company' dilemma, hor? I think many people kena this kind of situation lah, so you're not alone.

The 'freedom' part is a big thing, lah. Like you value your own time and doing things your way, and not having to report to anyone mah? I think that is a very human thing to want, because nobody wants to be kay poh or sabo by someone else telling you what to do.

But the 'good company' part is also important, right? It’s like, your girlfriend is good to you and you enjoy her presence. It’s hard to find someone who you can gel with, and who agar agar your modus operandi.

And then there's the 'kids' issue, confirm that one is also kan cheong! She wants kids, but you want to be DINK? That's a very big difference in what you want for the future lah. And I think that kind of decision is important, and it cannot be forced on anyone, so someone will confirm be sabo.

And the travelling issue, aiyo, that one also jialat! You want to go with your travel buddy, but she feels lonely? It’s like you kena torn between your kakis and your girlfriend sia. Like how to agar agar this kind of problem?

I think the main issue here is not the 'freedom', or the 'good company', but more that the two of you have very different ideas on how the future should look like. It’s not just about getting married lah, but also about kids, and travel, and all the things that couples kena think about.


But if you confirm cannot reconcile these differences, then maybe it’s better to part ways, rather than have a marriage that is full of chao kwee and unhappiness, lah . Because if you go into a marriage knowing there are unresolved problems, then confirm the problem will blow up one day mah.

I'm really curious to hear what other people think about this. It's a difficult situation to be in, and I hope you will agar agar this properly, because it's not an easy decision to make lah, and you have to be sincere about it"

 

[JustMeHere]

Aiyo, this one confirm very kan cheong and jialat ah? Like, whether to get married or not, it's like you're caught between a rock and a hard place sia! It’s like you kena the 'freedom' versus 'good company' dilemma, hor?